GUY & GIRL ADVICE ***Need Some Serious Advice***

The scoop- My girl and I have been dating for 3 years. Now a long distance Relat. Never once been jealous about anything. She lives 2.5 hours away from me now and I let her go to bars w/ ppl she works with baseball games ect...I don't want to be a controlling BF. Were tot. cool- I trust.....ed her


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I started thinking something was up when she was hanging out with this guy ...a lot. STILL not a big deal b/c this has never happened and I trust her. 4th of July got late I wanted to leave and she wanted to stay. The 2 of them played games sat close and I found them sitting uncomf. close on a blanket watching fireworks. She still did not want to leave so I waited in the car until 2-3 Hrs later.


I asked and asked......';WERE JUST FRIENDS'; She tells me.


One night -I stayed up all night for the new iphone 3G so I can get her 1and 1 for me. I called and called that night -Never picked up her phone. I later refuse to leave until she tells me whats going on bw the 2 of them. Then she wanted to go on a break out of the blue- She just needed space-What space. We have a LD relat. and I let you do whatever. I said ';If that is what she needs to come back to me, then fine';


TRUTH -Her and him both had feelings for each other and opened up about it. The night I got her the phone she went to a ballgame with some friends-him including she got drunk and stayed at his house ...on the same bed...with a buffer pillow b/w them. This sounds dumb but I believe her that is all that happened.





After long talks and love was expressed we got back together.





HERE IS THE PROBLEM THAT I NEED HELP WITH::::::::::


She continues to have a friendship with him b/c she works w/ him. She texts him about as much as she texts me ...I have the bill to prove it (which has nothing bad written in them) and as of last week of I told her to STOP DELETING her messages from this guy (She did this b/c she knew I would be mad) so I can build up honesty back into our relationship that was lost when she said this guy was just a friend. She now gets mad when I bring up this guy and asks 20 QQ??QQ about whats happening. I have never been jealous before in this relat. and its not 20 Q


MY QUESTION::::::::::::


Do you think it is alright for her to maintain a friendship with him because there REALLY is nothing going on between them (anymore) and they work together ....Should I cut her some slack or should she respect how I am feeling and find a new friend to work with?





Please help,





:)HELP:)GUY %26amp; GIRL ADVICE ***Need Some Serious Advice***
Honestly, I'd let it go. You're just going to torture yourself over this and long distance relationships don't work out - mostly.





She's hanging out with this guy, she ignored you and left you in the car for three hours to be with him not you, and she slept in the same bed with him. My opinion is, you are working really, really hard to fool yourself.





I have acquaintances that happen to be men, but I don't hang out with them or text them, I just talk at work about work things and polite conversation. If I was talking to anyone that my husband didn't feel good about, I would quite talking to them so I didn't hurt him. He's my man and he is the most important thing to me.GUY %26amp; GIRL ADVICE ***Need Some Serious Advice***
have respect for yourself because she didn't. being appreciated is very important and feeling wanted is even more important. she even accepted an expensive and thoughtful gift while she mistreated you. move on, we are all looking for a man like you.
I think that she should be more considerate of your feelings. However, you can't really ask her to change who she works with. The problem I have with this situation is that she still has feelings for this guy. I would seriously talk to her about it. If she blows you off then dump her. She is playing you.
Well sounds like you have a girl who can't make up her mind and won't give you an explanation thats sounds truthful. Because I don't think you truly beleive anything she told you about him I think something happen or else you wouldnt have any doubts you sound like a good guy and sounds like you have a girl who is taking advantage of the comfort zone you have put her in and what you need to do is shake it up a little. She took that break because she started to have feelings for him and she didn't tell you that maybe because she wanted to preserve your relationship or she couldn't. So when she tells you nothing happened thats bullshit. What you need to do is find out how much she loves you and break up with her on the grounds that you don't trust her. And if she loves you truly loves you she will come clean after while in an attempt to get you back if she lied but if she does not come after you then you got your answer she cheated on you and don't care about you anymore. Sounds like she is not being honest and thats not good in any relationship. Like I said earlier you sound like a good man and you don't deserve a women who won't be honest with you.
If shes spending more time with this guy as a bf i would also be worried, if shes saying to u that shes needs a break, it could indicate that shes already confused about her emotions or already have a greater feelings for this guy then u.





living in ignorance is a blessing. am sure u know deep down if shes telling u the truth or not... if u are the 1 for her, then her actions should have prove this.





words might be beautiful, but actions are honest...
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There is pobably nothing going on RIGHT NOW. She is obviously interested in him. This is typical. Girls talk to guys they like A LOT.





This is simple especially if she wants a break. She wants to see if anything will happen with this other guy and if it doesn't she wants to be able to fall back in your arms.





Sorry...this was an easy one.
I think she is lying to you, as she is getting mad everytime you bring this guy up, fi she wasnt doing anything, then she wouldnt be acting this way.I think you should tell her to end this friendship with the work collegue,as you need to trust her, if you are to remain with her.She needs to work with a new friend, not this guy, or change her job.i hope this helps you.
i feel so sorry for you. your gf sounds like a little bit of a player to me.... :( she should definitely respect how you're feeling. personally, you should move on. congratulations on not being a controlling bf, but you let her take to much advantage of u.
Damn bro, if i was you i would be heaps jealous... who knows what she could be doing with that guy i mean i doubt she only just slept in his bed... it doesn't work that way. She needs to give you some slack and i understand how your feeling if she values your relationship then she needs to find a new co-worker the guy obviously has feelings for her and its gonna end up with you getting hurt if he pursues it.