Any advice on an ex's boyfriend threatening spankings my children? They are 11yr old girl and 7 yr old boy.

Have been divorced about 1 1/2 yrs. Ex's boyfriend is now threatening spankings on my kids. I feel he has no right doing this, I feel it is their mothers place to discipline not his. Any one else have any thoughts on this matter? She is the primary I get to see them once a week and every other weekend.Any advice on an ex's boyfriend threatening spankings my children? They are 11yr old girl and 7 yr old boy.
I agree with you 100% it is not a boyfriend (or girlfriend's) place to physically discipline a child at all. Not that every boyfriend or girlfriend is like this but quite often they will get frustrated quicker and resort to spanking more often than a parent does. If you and your ex have a fairly amicable relationship try to sit down with her calmly and discuss discipline in general. What is her stance on this? See if you can get her to agree to NOT allow her boyfriend to spank the kids. If she can't perhaps it's time to modify your custody agreement.Any advice on an ex's boyfriend threatening spankings my children? They are 11yr old girl and 7 yr old boy.
My daughter is going through a similar situation with her ex's live-in. She has even gone as far as cutting the children's hair and doing it herself. My daughter is a cosmetologist! The judge has warned all parties, the only people to cut the hair is the mother and the only displinary is to be the biological mother and father (other than time out). There are too many girlfriend/boyfriend taking spankings too far! From shaken baby syndrome to death. I firmly believe the spankings need to come from the PARENT and not a boyfriend or girlfriend. If possilbe, be firm with your child and sit down to talk about why they are misbehaving. You need to set rules and consequences, so everyone is clear...
If you have joint custody then youhave more say.. sorry but its true.. if not it tougher.





If this boyfriend is serious they are getting married etc... then you ahve an uphill battle.





I would be concerend over him spanking an 11 year old girl.. she is getting to an age where... thast not that great and well...


you have to keep in mind she is a girl entering pueberty.





You can try talking to Mom... alone .. not with kids around or boy toy


also make sure your kids are not trying to play you guys off each other.





Finally as the Father... you have the right to ask Social sesrvices to check it out... youc an tell them you dont think they are abused but yu do not feel this should be going on...


they will make contact with the family and if nothing else the boyfriend will know... and might be enough to get it stopped.





tough call


do what you feel is best for the kids





good luck


wismom
Your ex boyfriend shouldn't be spanking your kids. Your 11 year old is too old for it. Your 7 year old should be spanked by you when needed. Maybe you should have them live with you. I think you should you should have a talk with your ex boyfriend and tell him not to spank your kids.
I'd have a sit down with them both. If that is not possible, let him know that he so much looks at one of the kids wrong, he will go to jail! He's a nobody, not even a step father! Maybe you can see what options you have of getting full or even joint custody!?


What a jerk, ask the Mom how she'd feel if you had a girlfriend spank them. I bet she'd be pi$$ed...


I wish you all the best.
I think if he ever lays a hand on your children you should call the cops!!!! It is not his place to discipline your kids. You need to have a talk with your ex about how you feel and if she disagrees bring her to court!!! If he is threatening your kids he should not be around them!!!
No! A stepparent has NO right to spank at all. Or a boyfriend. She needs to stop that now. I'm sure you have but you need to tell her how you feel. You have just as many rights as she does even know they don't live with you. You are the Dad.
i think you need to sit down and have a talk with both of them and let them both know how you feel. If they dont want to abide by your wishes then you may need to go further such as trying to get custody.
you should just contact the police and get a restraining order on him so he would be force to be far away from you. And if he gets anywhere past the range limit, he'll get arrested. He has no right to do that.
If he isn't the father of your children, then you should let him know right away he better not touch your kids in any ill manner because you will make it a point to make his pathetic life miserable...along with other threats.
Call CPS and report him. You are right, he has no right disciplining the children. He is of no relation to the children.
CPS